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Thoughts and reflections on works of fiction and literature. Pondering of life through pictures and words. Babbling about gay rights. Travelogues and anecdotes.

  • [1] Annie Proulx: Brokeback Mountain
  • [2] Arthur Golden: Memoirs of a Geisha
  • [3] Yu Hua: To Live
  • [4] Alan Hollinghurst: The Line of Beauty
  • [5] Colm Toibin: The Master
  • [6] Carlos Ruiz Zafon: The Shadow of the Wind
  • [7] William James: The Varieties of Religious Experience
  • [8] Charles Higham: The Civilization of Angkor
  • [9] Graham Greene: A Burnt-Out Case
  • [10] Dai Sijie: Mr. Muo's Travelling Couch
  • [11] Alan Hollinghurst: The Swimming-Pool Library
  • [12] Mikhail Bulgakov: The Master and Margarita
  • [13] Colm Toibin: The Blackwater Lightship
  • [14] Alan Hollinghurst: The Folding Star
  • [15] Ross King: Michelangelo and the Pope's Ceiling
  • [16] Fyodor Dostoevsky: The Brothers Karamazov
  • [17] Jonathan Franzen: The Corrections
  • [18] Colm Toibin: The Story of the Night
  • [19] John Banville: Shroud
  • [20] Leo Tolstoy: Resurrection
  • [21] Peter Hessler: River Town, Two Years on the Yangtze
  • [22] Ian McEwan: The Atonement
  • [24] Gabriel Garcia Marquez: Love in the Time of Cholera
  • [25] Ignacio Padilla: Shadow without a Name
  • [26] Umberto Eco: The Name of the Rose
  • [27] Richard Russo: Straight Man
  • [28] Fyodor Dostoevsky: Notes from Underground
  • [29] Alan Hollinghurst: The Spell
  • [30] Hermann Broch: The Death of Virgil
  • [31] James Baldwin: Giovanni's Room
  • [32] Ken Kesey: One Flew over the Cuckoo's Nest
  • [33] Xingjian Gao: One Man's Bible
  • [34] C. Jay Cox: Latter Days
  • [35] Harper Lee: To Kill A Mockingbird
  • [36] William Shakespeare: The Taming of the Shrew
  • [37] Daniel A. Helminiak: What The Bible Really Says about Homosexuality
  • [38] James Baldwin: Tell Me How Long the Train's Been Gone
  • [39] Kenji Yoshino: Covering - The Hidden Assault of Civil Rights
  • [40] Italo Calvino: If, On a Winter's Night A Traveler
  • [41] Arthur Phillips: The Egyptologist
  • [42] George Orwell: 1984
  • [43] Michael Warner: The Trouble with Normal: Sex, Politics, and Ethics of Queer Life
  • [44] Andrew Sullivan: Virtually Normal
  • [45] Henry James: The Wings of the Dove
  • [46] Jose Saramago: Blindness
  • [47] Umberto Eco: The Mysterious Flame of Queen Loana
  • [48] Dan Brown: Da Vinci Code
  • [49] Kazuo Ishiguro: Never Let Me Go
  • [50] Ken Follett: The Pillars of Earth
  • [51] Leo Tolstoy: War and Peace
  • [52] Michael Thomas Ford: Alec Baldwin Doesn't Like Me
  • [53] Jonathan Franzen: How To Be Alone
  • [54] Jonathan Lethem: The Fortress of Solitude
  • [55] Matthew Pearl: The Dante Club
  • [56] Zadie Smith: White Teeth
  • [57] Fyodor Dostoevsky: The Double
  • [58] Jose Saramago: The Double
  • [59] Andrew Holleran: Dancer from the Dance
  • [60] Heinrich von Kleist: The Marquise of O & Other Stories
  • [61] Andrew Holleran: In September, the Light Changes
  • [62] Tom Perrotta: Little Children
  • October 08, 2006

     

    A Wedding That Feels Like Coming Home

    Yesterday I attended the wedding of two good friends of mine, one of whom is my roommate from college at Berkeley. The ceremony took place outdoor at a golf course that is tugged in the beautiful folds of the Napa Valley, in front of an oak tree. It was, in fact, more than a wedding, but rather a reunion of the college friends. The wedding was gorgeous not only because of the lush, verdant setting and the oboe-cello tunes diffusing through the light breeze, it was one that stroke my heart-chord as I was reminiscing the days when we ate, studied, and spent time together on campus. A good number of us came to celebrate Weizhu and Patty's special day with their kids--strollers neatly parked at the back of the ceremony seating, tupperware full of cheerios and fruit, toddlers crawling on the freshly mowed lawn, babies whining for attention. As I was sitting there and watching groom and the bride proceeding to the altar, lighting the unity candle, conducting a tea ceremony to honor and show respect of their parents, a sudden awareness-- one that is magnified by time's indifference seized me, but not with joy and happiness. Seeing my friends remind me of my being single, but to my gratitude and joy, it is the feeling like coming home to be with a family.

    3 Comments:

    Blogger Tony said...

    M,

    I know the feeling of sitting at a wedding and thinking about the same things...being single but having the support of "family." Hope all is well!!

    10/09/2006 10:08 AM  
    Blogger Tony said...

    M,

    I know the feeling of sitting at a wedding and thinking about the same things...being single but having the support of "family." Hope all is well!!

    10/09/2006 10:08 AM  
    Blogger Joshua said...

    Wow!
    It sounds beautiful and very loving. But I do know that sinking feeling of realizing one's own singlehood :(

    10/09/2006 10:54 AM  

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